During my 55 years of ministry, I have met many individuals who were confused about their gender identity. Most of them were like Jan (not her real name) who as a late teenager had fallen in love with a boy in the neighborhood whom her parents did not approve of. Because of this she became hardened toward natural affection for males. As time went on she began to have relationships with females her own age. Which in turn led to her eventually moving to another state where same-sex marriages
were allowed.
What does the Bible say about this? Genesis 1:27 says, “So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him, male and female He created them.” According to Scripture, there are two genders. I realize that many of our educational institutions advocate that their students can change sexual identities as often as their emotions change.
But I do not see that in Scripture. From what I have observed in ministry, those that have gender confusion often come from broken homes, have been sexually assaulted, or brain-washed by the media. Some later realize their sin and turn from it while many others continue for decades or their entire life. Unnatural gender roles are another manifestation of sexual confusion. Genesis 19 reveals what Lot dealt with in Sodom. That city & surrounding area was destroyed by the judgment of God because of this sin. Leviticus 18 reveals what God told Moses to teach the Israelites about what was and what was not acceptable sexually.
In the New Covenant the Apostle Paul, in Romans 1:18-32, tells us how that many have walked away from God and through a perverted mind have indulged themselves in all sorts of homosexual & lesbian activity which brings about the judgment of God. Is it possible for one who is living this lifestyle to change? Yes! I have known some who have.
The change does not come easily, but it can happen. It does require some decisions to be made.
Number 1 – the person must want to be different. They must be willing to pay the price of walking away from those who practice this lifestyle.
Number 2 – they must repent – turn around – and turn to God with all their heart.
Number 3 – they must renew their mind with Scriptures that reveal who and what they are in Christ. They have to see themselves as forgiven, redeemed, as someone God loves.
Number 4 – they must know that this is a process and not just one decision made in the heat of emotion but a choice that will require something from them.
Number 5 – they must know that God will be with them, loving them in spite of their past, and is constantly molding and making them into what His plan is for their future.
A number of years ago while pastoring a small country church in western Kentucky we had a guest speaker who, years before had left his wife and child and lived a homosexual lifestyle. He got right with God and started into the ministry. But he still had no desire for his wife. This went on for about six months. While he was with us, on the last night of the meeting, he told me that he suddenly had a desire to go home to his wife instead of going on to his next scheduled ministry opportunity. As soon as the service was over we sent him home and the rest of the team went on to the next meeting. I heard from him later that his wife accepted him home gladly, forgave him, and their sexual relationship was now like it should be. Hallelujah!
As I mentioned earlier I have seen this same thing happen to others. The God we serve does miracles!